There comes a point where your mind is too tired to keep explaining why it hurts
You have tried to talk
You have tried to fix
You have tried to be understood

Nothing changes

So without a big speech
Your heart starts to move away
You answer slower
You share less
You feel some relief when plans get cancelled

It is easy to shame yourself
 To say
 I should be closer
 I should be stronger

But often that distance is your heart setting a line
 It is your nervous system asking for rest
 It is the beginning of you leaving emotional danger

Distance is not a revenge
Sometimes it is survival.

If you keep feeling guilty for pulling back from someone
Ask yourself
What happens to my body when I am with them

Do I feel small?
Do I feel tense?
Do I feel wrong the whole time?

Your heart will often set a boundary through distance
Long before your mind gives you permission to do it

Instead of judging that distance
Get curious about it
What is it protecting 

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