From Rescuer to Guid. From Spoon-Feeding to Stepping Back (Parent Quiz)
Be a lighthouse, not a tugboat. Step back so they can step up.
We start with love, then habit, then rescuing. Here’s how to shift from rescuer to guide—with warmth, boundaries, and a simple first step.
Spoon-feeding a toddler? Noble.
Spoon-feeding a 22-year-old with a mustache and a gaming chair? Spiritually illegal.
The goal was never to be their tugboat—it was to be their lighthouse.
🎯 FREE Parent Quiz: https://genzlionup.com/parentsquiz
🦁 Independence Quiz (share with them): https://genzlionup.com/iquiz
The problem (why families get STUCK™)
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Love turns into rescuing → removes practice → delays skills.
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Parents feel exhausted; young adults feel doubted.
The reframe: Rescuer → Guide
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Guide = present, kind, and hands-off on the task.
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You hold belief and boundary while they take the steps.
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A lighthouse doesn’t pull the ship; it shows the way.
10-Minute Lighthouse Plan (do today)
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Take the Parent Quiz → https://genzlionup.com/parentsquiz
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Choose one task you usually do (email, appointment, paperwork).
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Use the Guide Script:
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“I won’t do this for you, but I’ll show you how once.”
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“Here’s the first step; you try it and I’ll be nearby.”
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Hold the line with warmth: “No, not this time—I believe you can.”
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Debrief in 5 minutes; decide the next step.
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Parent Quiz → https://genzlionup.com/parentsquiz
- Share the Independence Quiz with them → https://genzlionup.com/iquiz
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Escape STUCK™ → https://genzlionup.com/escapestuck
